Ecstasy is a direction to lean into. So is pain. This is emotional posture. Most people I know, myself included of course, seem to have had their natural connection to ecstasy disrupted. And their learned connection to pain, reinforced. So it becomes a cultivated habit... to plan, prepare and make room for... pain. Hope + optimism atrophy, while cynicism grows strong + muscular. Stop trying to avoid disappointment. Disappointment doesn't kill. Cowardice kills. Risk disappointment. Ecstasy seeks to drench such fools.
The question "How are you?" is PROFOUND.
But it has been watered-down to a synonym for "Hello."
Forced or fake auto-responses of obligated okay-ness are expected.
(And if you are going through something tragic, it really doesn't matter! Every social encounter OPENS with this well-established Ritual of Insincerity.)
The question "How are you?" prompts an answer that begins with "I AM _____________."
This means many times each day, you are invited to SPEAK THE MOST POWERFUL STATEMENT that can be spoken of yourself.
And the socially-expected thing to do, is be QUICK + SLICK with your answer.
For a change... TAKE YOUR TIME, and tell your truth. ✍🏾