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Better Decisions = Better Days

10/24/2016

 

What the heck is 'Oneness'?

10/23/2016

 

Caged Birds. Wild Birds.

10/1/2016

 

The Lair Inside You.

9/1/2016

 
Lairs. Superheros have them. Wild animals have them.
They are NEEDED in chaos, and in jungles.
And we are smack dab in the center of both.
Gotham-like mayhem. Rapid. Rabid. Designed
to wear minds down, and burn hearts out.

A secret, private, resting place of your very own
helps you stay rooted in c
ompassion, objectivity
and wise action. Whether you are a busy mommy,
hustlin' entrepreneur or committed activist, you can
find the time, and the access, to this place inside you.

Does How you feel about Mondays, show how you feel about life?

8/1/2016

 
Yesterday I was talking with a friend (she's 7), and she recited the days of the week.

Each time she started, she said, "Monday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday..." and then we'd crack up laughing.

"Wow, life must be great when you'd choose TWO Mondays in one week!" I joked.

Of course she didn't understand what I meant... but I bet you might?

Are you now, or have you ever been, at a point in life where Monday represented separation from where you'd rather be... disconnection from what you'd rather be doing?

Many people live with deep resentment/dread of Mondays because (for traditional business schedules), it commences a lie. Or if that word feels too extreme, it starts a compromised reality we feel trapped in due to financial obligations.

Freedom eats that compromise, and restores ownership of yourself, to yourself. On every day of the week. In every circumstance. Thanks for the reminder, Meta. I needed it. <3

Calaveras de azucar

7/28/2016

 

Got this terra cotta skull pot from a street vendor.


As a happy, but straight-forward, reminder to make the moments count.


To me, it reflects urgency, not morbidity.

these truncated lines

7/25/2016

 
these truncated lines
are built with the spines
of words meant to stand
in the liberated land
between your ears
beyond your fears
through your tears
can you hear?
a call to More
than the media's roar?
if we only read what was
rather than write what can be
who really controls
our destiny?
not a blue, or a red
a cop, thug, or fed
your future is YOURS,
made with the thoughts
in your head.
the thoughts in your head;
what are they making?
are they carrying their weight?
or are they just taking
up precious space
behind your face,
causing you worry,
and hiding real grace?
they are ABLE
to change material circumstance
without the old school song and dance.
so would you try, and take a chance
on envisioning more beauty,
don't just count dead bodies.
makers ain't morticians. 
we don't embalm.
we psalm.
we bomb
with words
written in a certain way
to change the direction
of co-opted ways. 

This is the house that defiance built.

7/8/2016

 

The random key to my current front door reminded me...

... of a phrase I saw in a dream: "This is the house that defiance built." 

I was studying permaculture and earthen-building at the time, because I wanted to flee the city, head to a dense, mossy forest, and live in monastic peace.

So I listened to Jack Spirko's Survival Podcasts. Got my certifications. And took very seriously the idea of self-responsibility.

I was gonna be a new kind of pioneer woman, and everyone knew about my intended hand-sculpted, solar-powered, earthen dome home... designed with genius regenerative properties. And edible landscaping. And fields of cannabis!

And all those things may still come to pass, but I realize now my dream wasn't really about home-ownership, but self-ownership. And for that, defiance is needed.

Owning yourself requires defiance.

Defiance is the only appropriate response to oppression, enslavement or tyranny.
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To defy is to refuse to obey, or to resist.

Unless you are harming another, no one has a right to force their will upon you. Yet we have come to EXPECT constant interference. Instead of *objecting* to the creeping intrusion of the State, we *normalized* it. 

And that is why defiance is needed.

To reverse the routine trampling of your will. To revive, rather than regulate, your relationship with plants, rainwater and the sun. To cease the theft of your taxes, which  fund deep and wide investments in death, via authorized assassins, weapons, wars and prisons.

We are encouraged to fear each other, and keep distance. Please, don't. Defy division. Defy the temptation to exaggerate the menacing qualities of "them," and the admirable qualities of "us." 

From behind that green door, guarded by wild Bouganville and Birds of Paradise, I'll have more to say about personal liberation, and the plants that help us get out of our own cognitive way. In the meantime, Google "self-ownership." Let the ideas sink in deeply. Within you, they'll start the right kind of peaceable fire.

The Power To Break Away

6/24/2016

 
Bravo, Britain. Aroooo.

Six creative insights from a big, brown moth.

5/23/2016

 

​Late last night, while working in my darkened room, with only the light of my laptop glowing... a big brown moth flew into the lit screen. Crashed several times. Hard. 

The metaphor was not wasted on me. I recognized my own light-chasing, head-banging work-style. And I suddenly "got" that the completion of my creative goals do not require self-torture.

Nature is my favorite teacher. Here are a few other things that moth reminded me:


  1. Moths are nocturnal. - Know when YOUR creative peak hits, then protect and use that time... even if it's an "inconvenient" window, like 2am - 6am. Why organize your life according to someone else's arbitrary 9-to-5 designation? Learn, respect and defend your own creative cycles.

  2. Moths are related to butterflies, but they are not butterflies. - Comparing yourself to others -- especially those who are not even true/actual peers -- is a waste of your mental force. Instead, direct that wonderful creative energy toward just two things that unchain all other desirable things: FREE YOURSELF and BE YOURSELF.

  3. Moths are covered in sensory hairs, and they use them to feel their environment. - Sensory experience makes clear to you the subtle, the nuanced, the unspoken. It also moistens dry things. Flavors bland things. And enlivens stuck things. We are talking about THE VISCERAL. Consult and use it as the boundless sensory source that it is. (The under-used sixth sense could be your competitive advantage in the creative marketplace. And all marketplaces, for that matter.)

  4. ​Some moth species have no mouths. Because they cannot eat, they live only about a week. Their sole purpose is to mate and reproduce before they die. - You have a mouth. Fill it with good food, and empty it with true and kind words. Creators cannot be a force for good if they are not fed (nutritionally, cognitively, emotionally, soulfully and financially). Feed yourself, SO THAT you can feed others from the beauty of what you make.

  5. The moth species that do have mouths, pollinate plants that bloom at night. - If you struggle with feelings of obscurity, or you sometimes wonder: "Is anybody listening? Does anybody care?" The fact that "it" is in you to say, means there are ears -- there are causes, clients and audiences -- waiting and well-suited, for your message. So, keep pollinating.

  6. There are 9 times more moth species (160,000) than there are butterfly species (17,500). - What the moth lacks in showy colors and iconic acclaim, it boasts IN VOLUME. Those of us who work at night (more behind the scenes, than front and center) often feel alone and isolated. But that is not the case. We are actually VAST in number. Imagine what we will do collectively when we really wake up to that fact.

Have you had any encounters with moths, or other insects, that taught you something? Please describe it. Big lessons often come from tiny things.

Acapulco Heat

4/24/2016

 

Wanted: Ecstatic Fools

4/8/2016

 
Ecstasy is a direction to lean into. So is pain. This is emotional posture. Most people I know, myself included of course, seem to have had their natural connection to ecstasy disrupted. And their learned connection to pain, reinforced. So it becomes a cultivated habit... to plan, prepare and make room for... pain. Hope + optimism atrophy, while cynicism grows strong + muscular. Stop trying to avoid disappointment. Disappointment doesn't kill. Cowardice kills. Risk disappointment. Ecstasy seeks to drench such fools.

Leaping is a life skill. Bungee jumping helps you practice.

4/6/2016

 

All tied up, at my first bungee jump at Paradise Acapulco!

My friend, LeAnne, dove in like a fearless pro.

I, on the other hand, required a 6-minute pep talk, lots of deep breathing and, ultimately, a gentle push. I was soooo frightened, and nauseous, and I really thought I was going to fold and just turn around. Or vomit. Or worse.

Sometimes help is needed. That was one of those times, and I wasn't too proud to ask for, and receive, it. Next time, though, I'd like to squash all that at-the-edge hesitation. There's a big difference between leaping, and limply falling.

​Graceless starts aside, I went head-first 164 feet, and felt what it is to plummet. And to "bounce back." I will hold that embodied metaphor a good, long time.

An Important (And No-Cost) Book About Freedom

4/2/2016

 
Free your MIND, and your LIFE will follow! Yes, there are costs and considerations... and each one is well worth it!

Adam Kokesh (the only author I'm aware of who didn't even bother to have his name on the cover), and the generous folks who support him, make this fantastic freedom primer available FOR FREE!! You can get it here:  http://thefreedomline.com/freedom/


Please give it a listen or read. If you'd like to then share your thoughts/feelings here as a comment, I'd love to hear what got stirred in you.

Sweet dreams

3/27/2016

 
With the help of Google Translate, I asked him (he was sitting upright then), for pemission to photograph the painting behind him. He smiled, raised a finger to ask for a minute, and proceeded to spread himself out for a nap. -- Calinda B​each, Acapulco

What beauty is your conditioning blocking from you?

3/8/2016

 
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Hi! I am having a three-month exploration in Acapulco! I'm exploring personal freedom, and am healing and restoring myself from a brutal Western conditioning that -- temporarily -- disconnected me from my own wisdom and power. Okay, that's enough background for now.

Moving on... to the floor-length window in my bedroom that OPENS. Yet, I've been in this space for a week without realizing that! Because​ I come from a strange part of the world where​ many windows are not intended/designed to be opened! Fresh air? Who wants to be bothered with the nuisance of a natural breeze​? No, we prefer our enviroments as artificial as possible.

And so, due to a repeated occurrence in my life (windows that don't open) I wrongly presumed the window in my room was just for show.

Here's the exciting (to me) part: WHAT CRACKED THE CONDITIONING OF MY MISTAKEN PRESUMPTION was being in my roommates' bedrooms, and luxuriating in the wonderful cross-breezes flowing through. So it occurred to me there was no justifiable reason why my room shouldn't also have windows that open! And sure enough, nearly effortlessly, it slid right open.

With a single finger, I had access not just to the most amazing breeze that makes AC absolutely unnecessary (average temp is 85F + sunny), but I also get a gorgeous soundscape of a water fountain and bird songs. This is a very mundane example, hopefully making it even more useful:
  1. We all have beliefs that limit us.

  2. They persist because, typically, we hang around other folks who share similar limiting beliefs... so limits get reinforced, and come to feel normal/natural... eventually expected.

  3. But we can risk social diversity. We can be open to others outside our usual sphere. We can cross-pollinate our life experience with others.
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  4. And, ultimately, we can see how easy it is to open our own window... with the inspiring evidence of others who have opened their window.

Love + Liberation,
from Acapulco,
​Erika 
♥

An important question for you, about your freedom.

2/20/2016

 
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These ladies, strolling down a busy street in Acapulco, sure make their loads look easy to carry. One even keeps both of her hands free.

I giggled as I compared their poise to my recent, and graceless, wrestling with suitcases and stuff. It's easy to get bogged down, but buoyancy is possible!

Which brings me to the important question about your freedom I'd like to ask you. But first, let's be clear and precise with our language:

Freedom is defined as "the power or right to act, speak or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint."

And, for our purposes, those last 4 words do not include hurt or harm to another. So, my question to you is, how much of that power or right do you exercise in your life? How often -- in your relationships, in your work, in your daily decisions -- do you exercise your power and your right to act, to speak and to think as you want? If not very, very often, WHY???

Whether you are restrained by:

*  a tyrannical national government;
*  a tyrannical negative inner voice; or
*  more likely, both of the above!

... you can regain and enjoy more freedom. But there is some honest and daring work required. Here are three things I've been practicing:

1.  Be quick to question. Any person, organization or system that tries to rule over you, should quickly be scrutinized... and likely, rejected. Would you ever consciously give your consent to another to rule over (e.g. master) you? Then don't do so, unconsciously.

2.  Be slow to judge. Every person, without exception, knows something useful that you do not. Stop dismissing people based on shallow presumption and prejudice. Go deeper. Listen harder. Learn something amazing from an unlikely teacher.

3.  Be intolerant of oppression. Anarchy -- or voluntaryism -- is a supremely ethical and philosophical ideal that CAN be lived into. When freedom is pursued, and traced to its utmost, you will find humans co-existing without compulsion and coercion. (Or, at the very least, working toward that end.) In a world that seems intent to domesticate, dominate, colonize and modify all life forms, anarchists steadily hold and develop strategies for personal sovereignty.

Freedom is not an imaginary unicorn. It is an innate birthright, that is too often infringed upon by inner and outer bullies. I'm grateful to be at Anarchapulco, surrounded by so many bold, brave, lovers of peace and freedom.

A Valentine Tip For You, From A Sexy Lil' Root.

2/14/2016

 
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Do you appreciate romance, sensory pleasure and plants? I made a recent and simple discovery that includes all three!  It's a triple-win I'd like to share with you. I hope it helps you get closer with yourself, and/or someone you love.

​While making a tincture (an alcohol-distilled botanical infusion), I was slicing a large amount of fresh, raw ginger. Its juice was all over my hands. I licked my palm, and noticed pleasant tingling on my lips and tongue.

I had always loved ginger for its warm, delicious spiciness. But I never considered it as a natural, topical stimulant before. Add a bit of coconut oil, and you have a spicy-warm lubricant or massage oil. No partner necessarily required, but lovely if you have one ;-) XO

Illinois + Cannabis = Outrage.

2/3/2016

 
This wordcloud is in response to Bruce Rauner's oppressive reign over medical marijuana. His leadership is willfully keeping citizens in needless states of suffering. Why?! How is this possible?! His administration's hyper-regulation will surely strangle the poorly supported medical cannabis pilot program this state rolled out in fear and hesitation... and has now progressed to blatant obstruction and sabotage. Seriously makes me want to bounce... and roam about where wellness and freedom is not infuriatingly kept beyond reach. Because after all, we are each THE ULTIMATE GOVERNOR of our own bodies and minds!
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Rise early. Listen well.

1/13/2016

 
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Rise early. Listen well.
Let freeing truth within you swell.

Here's what swole within me early this morning...

A simple thought about SPIRIT. Its essence
means "BREATH." Spirit is a principle that animates
and vitalizes. So, let that be your benchmark
for spirituality that is worth keeping. And practicing.
Ask yourself, "Does it make me more alive? Does it
cause me to be a better carrier and expresser of life?"
If your answer feels like "No, not really," don't despair.
It is a wakeful moment to learn the difference
between breath, and asphyxiation. With breath --
with true spirit -- rules and rulers are simply not needed.
There is order, without oppression. So, INHALE YOUR FREEDOM DEEPLY. 

034: What does your sensitivity have to do with the state of the world? Everything.

1/6/2016

 
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A few years ago I wrote and published an essay titled "The POWER of Your Intense Fragility: What Culture Hasn't Told You About Being Sensitive AND Strong" (available on Amazon.)

A kind reviewer described it as "less self-help for your inadequacies and more of a call to action for your special gifts."

And another said it "illuminates the power of your nature in such a way that you can begin to envision yourself as having a significant role in creating a kinder and more sustainable world." 

I'm grateful to those readers for getting my message, and I'd like to share a little of it with you here. This is section 11:
                  ________________________________________________________________________

We are facing more crises now than have been faced in the last 5,000 years of recorded history. We have to think differently and act quickly. We have to return to good sense and sanity, rather than normalizing the absurd. Indifference is possibly the most harmful threat we face.

Ecocide. Attachment to privilege, comfort and convenience at any cost. Disregard for the health of this planet, and the life-forms on it. It is time to live the wisdom that indwells each of us.

Mothers' breast milk should be pure and powerful... instead it is loaded with dioxin and many other toxic contaminants.

Forests -- literally, the lungs of our planet -- should be large and thick... instead North America has less than 4% left, and we are quickly slicing through everyone else's trees, too.

Oceans, topsoil, air, 100+ endangered species a day, as well as our overall sense of well-being and contentment are all vanishing under the deadening weight of chronic materialism.

Please consider the following words (which I have shared many times elsewhere), written in 1955 by marketing consultant Victor Lebow, and carried out every minute by most industrialized people:

"Our enormously productive economy demands that we make consumption our way of life, that we convert the buying and use of goods into rituals, that we seek our spiritual satisfaction, our ego satisfaction, in consumptionÉ We need things consumed, burned up, replaced and discarded at an ever-accelerating rate."

Lebow's mandate disconnects us from ourselves, each other and the ecosystems that make Life possible. We should be angry that these tender webs of life are being carelessly swiped away. Alarm! Outrage! These are appropriate responses.

Empathic writers have long sent letters to editors, senators and representatives to voice their concerns. That's good, but this revolt demands more of us. Seeds of sanity -- freedom from mental derangement -- must be embedded more deeply and more broadly throughout culture.

Consumerism is not a viable way of life. Opposition to that murderous death-style has got to turn way up if it's ever going to be properly challenged and changed.

Many of the doctors in the Nazi death camps tried to help the imprisoned Jews by giving them, from time to time, an aspirin to lick. Can you see the littleness of that gesture, however well intended?

Socialized craziness requires radical revolt and resistance. Aspirin-licking won't relieve this planetary migraine.

We *have* to come together and shut the sick show down. United in sanity. Bonded in our knowing of Life. Committed to act, and to cause acts. The redeeming kind. The saving, correcting, game-changing kind. We are homo sapiens, not homo consumericus.

Start with your Burn, your holy indignation, and craft from there: songs, movies, books, articles, public service announcements, plays, TV shows, business plans, small farms, urban homesteads, community gardens, workplace outings, birthday celebrations. Allow sanity -- sound, healthy thought -- to pervade all that you create.

Embrace the pain or burden that gnaws at you. It entrusted itself to you. Your particular area of care is just that. YOUR area of care.  Own it. Then assert your creative, sensitive influence into that space.  Accept this match made in heaven, and express it here on earth.  Let your ink flow into the very dry parts, and create, author. Citizen. Lovely, lively human.

Cultural conventions that cause cancerous, disastrous consequences have been masquerading as normal. When do we stop pretending that bagged and boxed crap will make us happy? Will we mindlessly shop 'til everything drops?
 
Remember how thrilling it was to play outside? To make discoveries in the natural world. To watch the flight-pattern of a bumblebee or red-breasted robin. To get splashed by fresh water from a lake, or salt water from an ocean. To eat berries and pears straight from a tree. To get breathless from a mountain hike. To get romanced by the silver light of a full moon, or energized by the golden light of the sun. To get quiet and still from the closeness of a deer. To get drunk from the scent of honeysuckle. To feel your skin extend to the green land around you. To remember when you preferred a monarch butterfly to a manic mall.

Start there.  From the place of your deepest care.  And write as if your life depended on the blossoming of your words, because it does.

Our sensitivity is tied to our highest calling. I believe we are neurologically-wired to lead the way in personal and planetary upgrades. Our special nervous system uniquely equips us for the global tasks and issues that require unprecedented delicacy in all of the realms that affect every living creature -- social, political, economic and environmental.

Heightened perception is both a privilege and a responsibility.  Societal power structures are drastically shifting, and more and more empowered Sensitives will be needed to come forth to serve as humanitarian and visionary leaders.
 
"You are not here merely to make a living. You are here to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, and with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world.  You impoverish yourself if you forget this errand." (Woodrow Wilson)

* Get the full essay HERE. *

Stay tuned for "Sativa Yoga: Two Steps to Sanity" which is about freeing yourself, and being yourself. We'll talk candidly about the blessedness
of cannabis
, and how incredibly effective it is at exposing and healing
lack and sickness in our bodies, minds, ecosystem and social systems.


The cannabis "industry" talks about what we DO with it.
That's cool. I'm just more interested in who we can BECOME with it.
What are its transformational effects? Let's have some real talk, friends.

Your New Now.

12/30/2015

 
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We know that we don't have to wait for arbitrary dates
to do aspirational things. But our limbic system is complicated.
It still seems to need prompts, triggers and calendar cliffs
for us to leap from... to declare, "NO more of that!"
And "LOTS more of that!" So whether you embrace
December 31 as the ultimate re-set button. Or, like me,
you view each day as renewed, may your Right Now
feel shiny, new and full of possibility.
Because it is all of those things.
HAPPY TWENTY-SIXTEEN!

#wordcloudwednesday

More Light.

12/23/2015

 
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Yesterday was winter solstice,
the shortest day of the year.
Which means, going forward,
you get a little bit MORE LIGHT
added to each of your days...
starting TODAY! More light.
What will you do with it?
Make with it? Heal with it?
Love. Art. Illusions.
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‪#‎wordcloudwednesday‬

033: A Heart-Centered Way To Prepare Yourself For Important Meetings.

12/16/2015

 
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When you think about it, life is just a series of meetings.

Some make your heart race with giddy anticipation, like auditions, interviews, new client pitches, dates... You want these to go well.

Others make your neck and shoulders tighten, because you dread the people, the purpose, or both. But since your presence is somehow required, you want those to go well, too. For either type, here's a fun and easy experiment to try:
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  1. BEFORE the meeting, see/imagine the person/people you are meeting with.

  2. Now, see/imagine them happy and fulfilled. Wish it for them like you would wish it for yourself, your lover, your child. This is the entire practice. Doing it will cleanse and enlarge your heart. Uncover aversion. Remove resistance. It will make you a better artist, businessperson, and human in general. It will also make you feel fantastic. Because it reinforces the wonderful idea that you've got so much GOODNESS to spare, you just splish-splash it all around you... wildly and without measure! You identify more as fountain, than sponge. The truth about you is that you do have goodness to spare!

  3. AFTER the meeting, continue to do this as often as they return to your mind. If their face pops in your thoughts, make it an automatic response to see them happy and fulfilled. If they persist in your thoughts, send them a quick note or call of care.

Since practicing this as a habit, I've noticed:


  • a much higher quality of connection with people;
  • a fuller and deeper understanding of success;
  • MORE desired meetings fill my calendar;
  • FEWER dreaded meetings make it to my calendar; and
  • when you genuinely want to see someone else's garden flourish, your own tomatoes get juicier and bigger than ever!
If you are in my network, or on my radar, know that someone is rooting for you... hoping for your expedient happiness and success. ♥

#wordcloudwednesday
#businessasbeing

Star of Wonder

12/9/2015

 
Whatever you believe, may it bring you peace all over. XO
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Astronomy disrupts ideology.
But can a night sky break feverish
addiction to a sack of stuff?
Would we wait in a long line
for a heart full of knowing?
Why doesn't that have more juice, more appeal?
Not the line, but the knowing heart?

Or, at least, the heart that wants to know.
And see. Like the Magi did. Reportedly,
they followed the arc of a star, to know and see.

Wise, magical things often appear ridiculous,
and later lead to Life.
While bigoted, hateful things often appear muscular,
and later lead to Death.

What about those gifts they brought?

May the gold remind you of your preciousness.
May the frankincense uplift you with fragrance and aroma.
May the myrrh anoint you with purity and power.

​#wordcloudwednesday
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The question "How are you?" is profound.

But it has been watered down to a synonym for "Hello." Forced or fake responses of obligated okayness are expected.

The question prompts an answer that begins with "I AM ________." Many times each day, you are invited to speak the most powerful statement that can be spoken of yourself.

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