May this healing meditation be of service to you, and your precious inner child. References mentioned in it are:
Hi, Beautiful! Thank you for clicking on this experience... which is a healing meditation for your INNER CHILD.
Part 1 offers some foundation, and will prepare you for the experience;
Part 2 is the actual meditation I'll talk you through; and
Part 3 will conclude the experience.
The phrase -- "inner child" -- brings different ideas to different minds, so let me share how I am using that term:
When I say "inner child," I am referring to an INTERNAL ASPECT of you that experienced a great, unattended pain or loss in your childhood. Or, a SERIES of great, unattended pains and losses in your childhood.
You may, or may not be, consciously aware of the effects of these childhood hurts or abuses... but they have definitely influenced the now-adult version of you.
The intent of this meditative experience, is to direct tender, caring awareness toward a particular memory that feels unresolved, and ready for closure.
Please note that I am not a licensed mental health professional, and this meditation is not presented as a substitute for industrialized methods. I am sharing with you a free and creative way to consciously use your WILL, your IMAGINATION and your BREATH to bring about relief and refreshment.
I acknowledge the incredible difficulty of motherhood... and if you are a Mom, I honor every sacrifice and delayed desire that motherhood required of you. This meditation places zero blame or shame on the heroic efforts of loving Moms.
I give daily thanks for all that my Mom endured as a single parent... and I send extra loads of respect to all single parents who face the most challenging job on earth... without a partner. DOUBLE STRENGTH to your arms, single parents!
The field of psychology has a lot to say about childhood wounds. (Dr. Gabor Mate is my favorite voice on the subject). Inner child work is shadow work. Whether you envision a "shadow" or a "child" version of yourself... the point of "working" with the shadow and/or inner child, is to stop muzzling, hiding, denying, refusing them. And start accepting and loving them. Whatever sliver or fragment of yourself that has not received your love... is wreaking havoc somewhere, someway.
The Gnostic, Thomas, put it this way. He said: "If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.” <--- That is the best description of shadowwork and inner child work I've ever heard. BRING FORTH WHAT IS WITHIN YOU... and meet it with love.
Ideal ways to experience this healing meditation:
BEGINNINGS. Beginnings are so important. Whether the beginning of a relationship, or a new job or business. And certainly the beginning of a LIFE. A beginning is the first part of something. It is the BRAND NEW START of something. The most basic instinct within us makes it clear that beginnings in life are to be protected, and kept free from harm and undue disadvantage.
A person's beginning in life SHOULD start without the normalized interferences of neglect, abandonment, abuse, molestation, or other traumatic forms of lovelessness.
But what SHOULD happen, often does not happen, and those unfair situations create wounds and injury.
The quick pace of modern life rarely allows the Time, Space or Know-How to productively deal with these wounds and injuries. Most humans just do their best to keep journeying forward... despite what may be hurting them deep within.
So NOW is a designated time for you to choose a persistent, painful memory... and see how you can shrink and dissolve that pain with something you always have access to, and in unlimited supply... and that is loving attention.
Are you ready to have an uncommonly beautiful encounter with yourself? Before we move on to Part 2, I remind you that you are in complete control of this experience. Follow the suggestions that feel good and right to you... and if, at any point, you sense overwhelm or unpleasantness... exercise your sovereignty, beloved, and simply pause or stop. You can always come back to this at another time.
As we approach the end of this meditation, you can say to your inner child: "Bye for now, Beloved. We are healthily connected, and I will be listening for your messages. You are very important to me, Dear One. I love you, and commit to keep you safe."
CONGRATULATIONS! You have established a positive bond with your inner child. You can revive this connection, as often as you like. You can return to this meditation, and love your way through as many memories or body-books as present themselves to you. And at any time, you can inhale love, and exhale pain, fear and resentment. These internal practices empower and support you!
When you feel ready, open your eyes, and bring your awareness from inside you, to your physical surroundings. The things around you make look the same, but YOU are not the same. You bravely brought something forth from within, and that means you are now more whole and more free than before. I'm thrilled for you, and your inner child. Walk in your newness.
The question "How are you?" is PROFOUND.
But it has been watered-down to a synonym for "Hello."
Forced or fake auto-responses of obligated okay-ness are expected.
(And if you are going through something tragic, it really doesn't matter! Every social encounter OPENS with this well-established Ritual of Insincerity.)
The question "How are you?" prompts an answer that begins with "I AM _____________."
This means many times each day, you are invited to SPEAK THE MOST POWERFUL STATEMENT that can be spoken of yourself.
And the socially-expected thing to do, is be QUICK + SLICK with your answer.
For a change... TAKE YOUR TIME, and tell your truth. ✍🏾