Cultural conditioning has made a lot of very polite liars.
I'd rather be uncouth, and in my truth. 😘
Not that it's either/or, because it's definitely not. We can be truthful and kind...
but for some reason, the truth of a thing is usually left unspoken, unrevealed, and unknown.
And THAT sad social development has been weakening our relations with ourselves and each other.
We live in Orwellian times of universal deceit. There is no shortage of:
I think there's a temptation to orbit around #1 and #2, because they don't require nearly as much personal courage as the last two.
In the diagram below, the red overlapping area is where all the elements of you, interact with all the elements of another person. Your problems, and your solutions, HAPPEN IN THAT RED ZONE.
By taking the time, and gathering the courage, to say what you really mean in those instances, you do no less than change the world, by changing your world. Don't underestimate The Butterfly Effect of those single, honest conversations.
- Governmental/political deception;
- Journalistic/media deception;
- Interpersonal/relational deception; and, the very worst of all,
- Self-deception.
I think there's a temptation to orbit around #1 and #2, because they don't require nearly as much personal courage as the last two.
In the diagram below, the red overlapping area is where all the elements of you, interact with all the elements of another person. Your problems, and your solutions, HAPPEN IN THAT RED ZONE.
By taking the time, and gathering the courage, to say what you really mean in those instances, you do no less than change the world, by changing your world. Don't underestimate The Butterfly Effect of those single, honest conversations.
A Social Honesty Session
Presumptions + Practicalities
- Honesty has tragically become an UN-learned behavior. (We are born absolutely truthful beings, and get socially conditioned into using more and more diluted forms of honest communication, until lying becomes habitual/normative and honesty becomes perceived as rude/impolite.)
- Number 1 above, accounts for some degree of personal suffering in your life.
- The more you hide and deny from yourself, the greater the suffering.
- The thing you want to SEE happen, is the thing you are here to MAKE happen.
- There is no freedom, with no self-responsibility. There is great freedom, with great self-responsibility.
- Our desire to be free requires a brave facing of our oppressors -- both outer AND inner oppressors.
We chat via Skype, Facebook, WhatsApp, Telegram or Zoom, so please be sure to include your email address and username when scheduling.
We chat via Skype, Facebook, WhatsApp, Telegram or Zoom, so please be sure to include your email address and username when scheduling.
Who Am I To Help You With Social Honesty?
Hi. Thanks for your interest in Social Honesty! My name is Erika. I was formally trained, and practiced, as a resident end-of-life (hospice) chaplain. That was remarkable work, but so is journeying with people who have decided against death... which includes self-deceit.
Death is the ending of vital processes. Lying to ourselves, and others, absolutely ends all sorts of vital processes. Needlessly.
Creating harmony between the truth/utmost urges inside you, and the resistant-in-some-way world outside you, IS EVERYTHING. It's The Path your feet most want to walk.
There are laws, traditions, opinions, taboos, traumas, mean people, and your own personal nuttiness (said with affection) that all whirl together to block, tire and discourage you. To punk you. To bully you into unwanted compliance that makes you grumble, but not much more.
Well, turns out, that grumble has a gas tank! I figured out how to use the deep discontent I felt, as fuel to change it. Slowly. Too slowly. Which is the "why" behind my urgency that sometimes surprises people. The urgency in me is here to help. That's who I Am, to help you get CLEAR about what you want... and then get the COURAGE to vocalize your heart. 💚
Death is the ending of vital processes. Lying to ourselves, and others, absolutely ends all sorts of vital processes. Needlessly.
Creating harmony between the truth/utmost urges inside you, and the resistant-in-some-way world outside you, IS EVERYTHING. It's The Path your feet most want to walk.
There are laws, traditions, opinions, taboos, traumas, mean people, and your own personal nuttiness (said with affection) that all whirl together to block, tire and discourage you. To punk you. To bully you into unwanted compliance that makes you grumble, but not much more.
Well, turns out, that grumble has a gas tank! I figured out how to use the deep discontent I felt, as fuel to change it. Slowly. Too slowly. Which is the "why" behind my urgency that sometimes surprises people. The urgency in me is here to help. That's who I Am, to help you get CLEAR about what you want... and then get the COURAGE to vocalize your heart. 💚
Tired of fakin' it? Ready to be REAL in your own life? A Social Honesty session is for a person who does intend to: (1) know what is true for themselves about a particular issue or event; and (2) kindly reveal that truth to whomever needs to know it.
It's work, so our call is designed to strengthen the truth-teller in you. We will first EXPOSE the root-fears and distortions that have made it so frightening or difficult for you to honor yourself, by being honest with others. Then, we will DISPOSE of that s*it. Sound good?
"Stand before the people you fear, and speak your mind -- even if your voice shakes." (Maggie Kuhn)
It's work, so our call is designed to strengthen the truth-teller in you. We will first EXPOSE the root-fears and distortions that have made it so frightening or difficult for you to honor yourself, by being honest with others. Then, we will DISPOSE of that s*it. Sound good?
"Stand before the people you fear, and speak your mind -- even if your voice shakes." (Maggie Kuhn)
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Reviews From Others
"Dude, I feel like I've found the secret formula for positive self-renewal!" Starr Ohara * North Carolina
(Read Starr's extensive review here.)
"I sought clarity around my work, and boy, did I get it! I wasn't expecting a depth like that. I loved the professional, loving way of Erika, but what really got me was her bubbly, delightful, delicious laughter, like a fresh spring coming from the source." Sujati A. Goernitz * Québec, Canada
"Thank you Erika, for your depth of awareness." Marjorie Thoman-Lomas * California
"Erika is caring, trustworthy and passionate about her work. I felt completely comfortable opening up to her and allowing the truths of my life to unfold." Margaret Schreiner * Boise, Idaho
(Read Starr's extensive review here.)
"I sought clarity around my work, and boy, did I get it! I wasn't expecting a depth like that. I loved the professional, loving way of Erika, but what really got me was her bubbly, delightful, delicious laughter, like a fresh spring coming from the source." Sujati A. Goernitz * Québec, Canada
"Thank you Erika, for your depth of awareness." Marjorie Thoman-Lomas * California
"Erika is caring, trustworthy and passionate about her work. I felt completely comfortable opening up to her and allowing the truths of my life to unfold." Margaret Schreiner * Boise, Idaho