Welcome to Episode 15 of the Empathic Writing Journey Podcast! I started this podcast nearly 6 months ago as a way of chronicling my intent to:
(1) FREE myself;
(2) BE myself;
(3) deepen + sweeten my love affair with life; and
(4) promote empathy and permaculture/regenerative design.
Being faithful to each of these intentions has helped bring me healing I didn't even know I needed. I was surprised to learn how angry and resentful I had become from feeling like I never had enough time or mental space to simply think.
It seemed modern life was always rushing me along, and crowding my inner world with unimportant clutter and chatter. Two things I'm not particularly fond of, by the way. I'm contemplative. And mystical. And empathic. To flourish, I need plenty of time and space to tend to my solitary arts.
But my life wasn't designed around those aspects of myself. My need to think deeply. Move slowly. Connect meaningfully. Create beauty. And live gently.
Instead of doing those things so important for my well-being, I wasted my energy trying to adapt to CrazyWorld! I had accepted an extroverted, consumptive lifestyle as my own, even though at my core I am neither of those things. I was at odds with myself, and experienced a lot of suffering as a result. So six months ago I just stopped listening, to the cultural mantra that hums in the background like a humidifier, and convinces so many of us to slay our dreams. I listened, instead, to my truth-telling heart which had been holding The List my soul had made, of the things It wanted to do with this life. Needless to say, droning along was not on that List.
Living your dreams is the entire point. Believing otherwise is not only an acceptance of the ho-hum, it's an insistence on it.
I'll close my check-in with this final observation: The caterpillar has NO IDEA of the things the butterfly gets to enjoy. If it is transformation you seek, it's important to consult those who themselves have been transformed. It's a lot of well-meaning caterpillars out there.
I'm interested to know what's new, or lively, with you? Please let me know in the comments.
Jill Lanier of Permie Peeks...
...recently featured my work on her inspiring blog. Please see her article here. She includes some pictures of vegetable beds from my yard, getting a nice watering from young neighbors :-)
A recommended Charles Eisenstein Video
Big thanks to Monica for sharing with me Charles Eisenstein's talk at the recent Slow Living Summit called, "Time is running out. Let's slow down." It helped me better understand the anger I mentioned in my check-in. Please make the time to watch, and consider, what he says.
The 6th Permaculture Design principle.
The 6th Permaculture Design Principle advises us to "Produce no waste." To carry out this principle, I recommend backpacking/"roughing it" at least once in your life for a minimum of 2-3 nights:
(1) You will consider every piece of trash you produce, because you have to carry every piece of trash you produce until the end of your trip; and
(2) When you have an established relationship with the outdoor world -- when you connect to some aspect of its beauty and power, and not just in an exploitive way, but in a relational way -- you will feel protective of its resources and, at the very least, you'll be more mindful about burning through 'em.
Along those lines, below is a two-ingredient conditioner that made no waste, AND made my tight curls soft, defined and frizz-free. See pictures below!
Accepting my naturally coarse + curly hair. Finally.
It took 43.5 years, but I have finally embraced my naturally curly hair! No more forcing it straight with heat, and self-rejection. (I'll share more about that whole process later.) Curly hair is always thirsty and ready for more moisture, so I loved the results of this simple, very effective two-ingredient hair conditioner:
* 1 banana (you can also use an avocado)
* 1 egg
Mix in bowl until the texture is a smooth puree. Rub into hair liberally, from scalp to ends. Pile hair on top of head, and cover with plastic cap for at least 20 minutes. Rinse. Enjoy softness, shine, pattern definition, decreased frizz... and aside from a banana peel, you make NO waste! ;-)
Hey Erika- Thanks for sharing your journey about how you are shifting your consciousness about space, pace and creativity. Your reflections on intention, time and creation in the CrazyWorld remind me of a text I'm currently reading by Peter Block (The Answer to How is Yes). In it he says, "When speed becomes the measure of performance it governs the way we experience our lives as well as the quality of our lives. Speed becomes a reason to settle for lower quality and ignore our desires. ... If we want depth, we need to step out of time. ... If we yield to the temptation of speed, we short-circuit our values." (77) I'd love to hear your insight on something else Block says, namely that 'If we love going fast and speed is our friend, then we need to ask what are we postponing.' (PS. Nice hair mix!)
6/23/2014 09:07:11 pm
Wow. I'm savoring what you have shared from Block's work, Fenesha. Thank you! I *strongly* agree with his insights... about stepping out of time. And about asking WHY we are so doggone hurried all the time.
6/29/2014 02:53:27 am
Produce No Waste - this is one of a couple of my favorite permaculture principles.
6/29/2014 03:10:42 am
Thanks for the shout out Erika! I love that 1) the little ones are involved in the shared gardening and 2) they seem totally engaged and present to the task at hand.
7/4/2014 07:28:29 am
Live Your Dreams-
I very much enjoyed the conversation with Charles Eisenstein. There were many things that resonated. One thing in particular emerged during the brief Q&A after his talk. Someone asked something to the effect of how could you persuade others to embrace a more reverent way of viewing what exists outside of ourselves. His answer was something I had come to see for myself awhile ago.
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